All life Requires love. It is a mysterious force in the universe that cannot be measured By any mechanical or electromagnetic System currently available. Everyone knows the ways they experience love: Being held and hugged by your mother or your beloved; Experiencing a romantic turn on; being healed and comforted By a masseur, therapist or doctor; seeing a beautiful sunset; feeling one with God or the entire mysterious universe during prayer or meditation. Most so-called mental illnesses are because we do not love ourselves unconditionally . What is called normal in contemporary societies Is a severe limitation Of unconditional self-Love. This goes back at least 5000 years and it was codified in the Bible by saying that you were born in original sin And have to work very hard or you will go to hell. This develops an internal critic Who prevents you from loving yourself unconditionally unless you were following whatever set of rules you were raised to follow. The basis of this happens long before the development of verbal language. An unloved child blames itself for the rest of its life. The less self I don’t know I’m sorry I’m not going to do anything I’m not going to do anything I’m going to be able to do something I’m going to look love ,the more self hate and or violence towards others.

Unconditionally loving oneself Is your fundamental nature. All practices of meditation, therapy And much self-care are to help you let go Of the obstacles to loving yourself. It is a lifelong, Gradual process In our judgmental, Hierarchical And only partially loving society. As you come to realize that you are your own biggest obstacle and start to love and accept yourself more and more, You are likely to receive much criticism and attempts to put you back in the box you were trying to escape From your family, friends, employers ,politicians and traditional religious practitioners. You must first take responsibility In the most profound sense For your mind and your life. Then you must learn how to be aware of what is best for you right now. And develop the courage To live it moment to moment. The rest is details.